My bf likes it when I hold my tongue really rigid, hold his shaft and slide the head of his cock back and forth across my tongue quickly. I also like to get my lips really wet and relax my mouth with my lips slightly parted and slide the head back and forth slowly across my lips to tease him. This makes him think of my OTHER lips so it's like getting both at once.


Also if you hold his balls gently and knead his 'taint' (the little smooth area between his balls and butt) gently with your knuckle while sucking him, this is a surefire way to make him come hard and quickly (my guy anyway). Don't get too close to his bum though, unless he requests it 'cause that'll make some guys freak (again, my guy anyway). Hmm, what else...I like to go down on him, get him really lubed up with saliva, then use my hand also and as my mouth comes up, my hand follows and does a twist at the head then goes back down while I gobble him up with my mouth again. It's a smooth transition without a pause so he feel continuous motion.



I also like to go down ALL the way then wiggle my tongue back and forth really quickly as I pull my mouth all the way back up slowly, pausing at the head to give it extra attention and circle my tongue around it. Also focus just on the head sometimes, twist your head around SLOWLY with your tongue on his frenulum (stretch of skin under the head) the whole time. Works every time. Nothing gets him though, quite like moaning while I give him head or pausing to say


"I love sucking your cock" or "I want you to come in my mouth" or sometimes I rub my pussy then rub my pussy juice on him to show him how wet I get when I suck him, then I suck my juices off his cock; he loves that too. So many options- hope I'm not too graphic...

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Well, remember that big ol'cock of ours ain't fagile so those licky lick butterfly kisses will just be wasted. Yur gonna have to suck us hard. Real hard. Like yur goinna suck start a B-52.

Stand him up against the wall and resolve to yourself that yur goinna blow his young ass clear thru that wall if ya gotta to make him give up his man juice for ya.

Grab his big ol' hairy balls in yur right hand and place your left arm across his belly as you sit on your knees before him. Now yur goinna make like a woodpecker pounding on his cock for several minutes. (you may want to put a pillow under your knees first)

Nevermind how he moans & groans or cries out cos that's just him liken it. If you ain't hitting it as hard as he jerks it off yur still in "SISSY" gear.
SUCK HIM HARD DAMMIT !! Make him think yur gonna blow his asshole outa socket !

Ya can skin his cock back with your left hand and masturbate with your right one too. Just reach yur finger up to his lips to give him a taste of yours while ya suck him. Look up to him as you suck and wink
when he sucks yur finger.

If ya gotta stop and get yur breath along the way press your tongue hard underneath the head of his cock and move it in a kinda circular motion in and out with lots of pressure. Ya can get yur second wind without loosin an inch of ground this way. Just breath hard like yur blowin and catch yur breath while ya tongue him hard.

Listen for him gasping cause that'll tell ya when he's gettin close. When his thighs begin to tremble, get ready cos he's about to bust those nuts for ya !

Don't be afraid to drool. Drool all over yur tits cause it's sexy as hell and he may even think it's his cum when he collapses in front of ya, figuring he musta had so much you couldn't swallow it all.

When you think he's regained consciousness again look into his eyes, smile, and say, "Sorry honey, you just had so much..." batt yur eyelashes ! (use yur sweet little innocent girl voice for this) He'll notice yur tits and think daymmm she gives the best head. (I gotta marry THIS girl)

Yeah, atta girl ! Now put your arms around his neck and kiss him right cause ya earned it. He needs to smell his own scent on your breath as ya kiss him...you'll make a man out of him yet. None of that silly running off to brush your teeth and gargle with Listerine first in some ditzy schoolgirl
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Well sweetum's, ya know wat ya gotta do.

LOL...

That's a good one eDJ. Covers it well.

The best BJ's I've had have been when she absolutely, positively loooooves sucking my cock. She's making little moans and batting her eyes at me, gently scratching the underside of my balls. When she comes up for air, she's telling me how much she loves it and other dirty talking while stroking me with her hand. She'll keep me lubed with her saliva.

She changes up the pace while things progress. Starting slow, making love to my cock with her mouth, letting out her little moans and looking up at me. Then increasing pace for a bit to get me built up. Then backing off some with more moaning and looking up at me, then pulling off and dirty talking. Teasing the hell out of me.

Another good one is if you can manage to take him all the way down, make a swallowing action like you're swallowing something. This squeezes and strokes him against your throat and tongue.

Let him know how hot you're getting. When your not down on him, you can use one hand to stroke him, the other to massage your clit or finger yourself, all the while you're dirty talking to him. It's multi-tasking at its best.

He'll be in heaven.

As an aside, if you're thinking of ice cubes, cold champagne is another good one. He'll feel that tingly sensation that you feel on your tongue. Mints can help with the gag reflex.

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* How to perform oral sex on a circumcised man… do this wrong and you could put him off fellatio or even cause him pain (page 60 - 61)

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Not to mention I have been featured in media countless times. Every major newspaper in the United States, dozens of magazines and over 500 radio and TV shows such as Oprah, The 700 Club and Men Are From Mars / Women Are From Venus, sharing my tips and secrets with millions of viewers worldwide.

Have you tried using a vibe? You can hold it on the soft part under your jaw or rub it on your cheeks with the penis in your mouth. You could even hold it on the perineum or in the anus. Some guys may have an aversion to using a vibe, so don't prepare him for it: just spring it on him.
posted by rhapsodie at 12:19 PM on August 24, 2005


I think justonegirl covered just about all the bases; she sounds as if she knows what she's talking about. Lots of eye contact is good as well. One major thing I personally enjoy that hasn't been mentioned is talking; part of good blowjob technique for me is having my mind stimulated as much as my nerve endings, so in addition to the "visual effect" mentioned by justonegirl when you take the penis out of your mouth, try looking up into his eyes and telling him how much you enjoy doing this (if that's true), ask him if he likes having his (big/thick/naughty) cock sucked, etc, etc. That sends me over the edge.

Enthusiasm is key, having fun is essential. It's all about communication and contact, as is any good sexual activity.
posted by NewGear at 12:24 PM on August 24, 2005


The Vice Guide to Giving Head.
nsfw.
posted by hellbient at 12:31 PM on August 24, 2005


Do not just go for the asshole like kids after a burst pinata. Work around it a little, if he's ok with that work a little farther. I would prefer that no one go near mine what-so-ever, thank you. It is just not something I like and it is a complete turn off.

Frankly, all of the above advice can be taken or left the same way. Not all guys like the same head. Learn the guy early and progress on what works, move away from what doesn't.
posted by Pollomacho at 12:31 PM on August 24, 2005 [1 favorite has favorites]


Although my technique is far from perfected, I have on occassion glanced at sexuality.org's guide to fellatio for some ideas. Check it out.
posted by itchie at 12:37 PM on August 24, 2005


I think the big thing is to be really receptive to the guy and what they would like, too. Obviously not all men like the same types of blowjobs. So I'd keep a bunch of different ideas in mind.

A couple of guys I know love getting blowjobs while wearing cockrings. Failing that you could just clamp your hand nice and tight around their penis and testes.

Play with temperatures. Some guys really like you to take a mouthful of a warm drink and suck them. One guy really liked the bubbles of champagne. Also: ice cube.

Don't forget the nipples.

Also, sounds really simple, but your orientation to the man can matter for some of them. I have encountered preferences for: kneeling in front of them sitting on the bed/chair/whatever, sitting with them standing, or kneeling on a bed while they are lying down (so your ass is in their face, but not a 69 position).

If anything you try isn't enjoyed, don't get discouraged. Acknowledge and move on to the next one.

Have fun!
posted by gaspode at 12:41 PM on August 24, 2005


MoFi's favorite professional has a recommendation.
posted by cali at 12:56 PM on August 24, 2005


Not really on topic, or helpful, but recent Labor Dept reports put blowjoblessness at an all time high.
posted by darkness at 1:13 PM on August 24, 2005


Blowjobs are like dancing: until someone tells you, you may not even realize that you're not really moving your hands. Different places for your hands will depend on your position, and may include: grabbing the base of the cock, sliding up and down the cock, grabbing his "guns", hands behind back, hands reaching up his chest.
posted by 23skidoo at 1:38 PM on August 24, 2005


Different strokes for different folks... be into it, and explore everything from tip to taint. He should let you know what worked... though he might be a bit shy about what didn't.

The only thing I really dislike in a blowjob is if it's mechanical or forced... a half-hearted blowjob is a nice gesture, but it's just not that enjoyable for me.
posted by mosch at 1:50 PM on August 24, 2005

This isn't a universal. Though I may be odd in this sense, eye contact during oral sex, whether I'm giving or receiving, is a huge turn off. For whatever reason, even if the looks are definitively lustful, I can't help but wonder if the eyes are telling me otherwise.

making sure your hair -- if it's long -- is out of the way, or even wrapped in his hand, so that his view isn't obstructured is good too

Having a view is good, but moving the hair out of the way also helps the giver. Unless you enjoy the taste or texture of hair, use something to hold your hair back before you start. It is not pleasurable when you have to stop more than once to move your hair out of the way, so make sure once you start, your motions are fluid, not fumbling or separated by pauses.

I can't stress enough that what I am saying is my opinion and experience. Others may disagree strongly or find the exact opposite to be true. Some guys may dream of an inexperience partner, fumbling through their "first" oral sex experience. Fetishes are as numerous and unique as individuals.

In my own experience, frequency is equally important to the experience as technique and experimentation. During a particularly sexy day, more than once can even be just what the doctor ordered. Furthermore, if it's still hard after you're done, don't assume that it's going away. A blow job can be a great introduction to sex, though it is apparently common for men to lose their erection after orgasm.

The head of the penis, much like the clitoris, can become extremely sensitive after orgasm. It's not constant with me, but it can border on painful on occasion. Other times, I'm sad when my partner stops the moment I'm done ejaculating. Just be sensitive to your partners needs.

Don't stop mid ejaculation. It's not going to be easy to resolve emotionally or biologically. If you screw up a mans orgasm, which is often quite short, he's typically not going to be able to just recover and pick up where he left off. If you're allowing men to ejaculate in your mouth, other than use a condom if you have multiple partners, you should also not stop until it's clear he's done. If you're finishing the job external to your mouth, use your hands and another part of your body to finish. The breasts and ass are terrific visuals and tend to be shaped so a penis fits naturally. If you lack in cleavage or booty, you can use your hands, feet, neck or face. Play with it until it's finished and then keep going until he indicates he's done.

Mostly, appropriate enthusiasm is the key. Don't stop mid encounter to urinate, brush your teeth, change the channel on the TV or answer the phone. Aside from being potentially funny, it's generally perceived as rude and insensitive by the recipient. It also tends to kill the mood. Talking can be useful in the process, but you need to experiment with your partner. Cock worship and dirty talk are no nos for me, but other men like it.

Enthusiasm includes your body position. If you are uncomfortable or appear to be uncomfortable, this can result in poor technique. So get comfortable and make sure your comfort isn't adding discomfort to your partner. Some people will rest their elbows or body an a mans legs or other body parts, which can, over a period of time, cause pain and cramping.

If the man has an erection that, for lack of a better way to put it, stands up on its own, you might try to put downward pressure on the penis. Not only will this give you a better angle, this can increase the mans pleasure. I've had partners claim that it looks like it would be painful, but I find it to be the most pleasurable position for me. The same goes for sex. If the man's erection is limp, either naturally or from lack of arousal, this is not as pleasurable and can be extremely unpleasurable. Bending a penis is rarely fun, though to each their own fetish.

If you have repeat partners, vary how you start them. It gets boring and repetitions to have the same thing done over and over. Start with petting, humping, kissing, licking or nibbling. Insert it into your mouth for a short period of time, then lick the tip, shaft and balls, while handling the parts your mouth is not on with both hands. Sometimes quick and dirty is the goal, but it can feel equally good if it lasts a long time. A tease can really build anticipation and pleasure, just beware of negative responses to teasing.

In general, communicating with your partner is hard about such issues. Men tend to be bad at describing what they like and timid to discuss it. Women tend to not get the whole concept for lack of experience receiving them. Other than luck and experimentation, communication is the only way to give the greatest pleasure between two partners.

You don't need to deep throat, no matter how much your partner tells you it's the only things that makes him orgasm. It's simply not true. While it is pleasurable, the same pleasure can be derived other ways. If you have a significant gag reflex or a partner that won't fit, you can use your tongue to apply pressure. Mind you, we're not talking about the tip of your tongue here. You can try various motions to find one that works for your partner, but they are generally a gentle up and down motion, back and forth, circular and for the tongue talented, a wave.



This can apply greater pressure than the throat can and doesn't hurt. If you move your mouth up and down the head and shaft as much as is comfortable and use your hand(s) to move up and down the remaining bits of the shaft, which you should lubricate with your own saliva, this can be equal or better than deep throat. Some men don't find it visually appealing, but when done well, the difference can't be felt. (And I mean that literally. My partner tried both and asked me to identify what she was doing and there just wasn't a significant difference.)

The caveat here is something I personally find incredibly disgusting, which has various names, but generally involves gagging or vomiting. This is a fetish that can only be satisfied by deep throating. It is potentially dangerous and potentially incredibly disgusting.

The area under the testicles through the area past the anus can be extremely sensitive and stigmatized, so tread lightly if you don't know your partner is open to such ideas. A warm, moist tongue applying varying degrees of pressure can be superb. And a tossed salad topped with a hand job can be absolutely divine. Just remember that many people think this is "gay" or taboo for other reasons.

One last thing, but this is advice for what to do beforehand: sexualize a shower and a shave. Seriously, them's some stinky bits if they are unclean. They can be down right unholy. Take your partner into the tub or shower. Be sexy about it. When you're dry, get out your favorite electric shaver that can be used on your naughty bits, apply some talc and exercise caution as you remove his wiry underpinnings. Not only will it be better for you not having to floss with his pubes afterwards, but it will be better for him. (Opinion varies greatly on this one, but I was converted exactly this way by my partner.)


She happens to have a shaving fetish. Be warned that ingrown hairs and cuts to this area are particularly painful and easy to incur. There are a number of threads about shaving private parts in the AskMe archives.

Hope this is helpful.
posted by sequential at 1:54 PM on August 24, 2005 [3 favorites has favorites]


You have to read his responses and pace it correctly. Everything can be good, but slowing down at the wrong moment can take away a lot of the enjoyment.
posted by ludwig_van at 1:57 PM on August 24, 2005


slowing down at the wrong moment can take away a lot of the enjoyment.

Then again not slowing down can do the same thing in that right moment. Judge by the guy not by what someone tells you is a universal. There are no universals. The best at blowjobs are the folks that learn to gauge the recipient, not ones that adhere to some set routine.
posted by Pollomacho at 2:01 PM on August 24, 2005


I Nth the "wet&sloppy" comments, primarily because few women can keep up a constant suction/firmness and the more spittle the more friction & sensation. Plus I can't speak for any other man but there's little I like less than a dry jerk, so if you take your mouth off for a break/testicle all that saliva makes for a nice slide when you're jerking him.
posted by phearlez at 2:01 PM on August 24, 2005


Ooh, what about gently squeezing my balls

Seriously though, I like that a lot, and I also find when I'm having difficulty reaching climax for whatever reason, a squeeze will tip me over the edge.

Interestingly, I find that the eye contact bit is a skill in itself - there's a big difference between a loving look or a genuine I'm-really-into-this look and a all-my-friends-told-me-to-look-you-in-the-eye look.

Also - different sets of rules of uncircumcised guys. I find girls used to circumcised guys go a bit heavy on us poor bunch who are little bit more sensitive.

Oh, and what about swallowing? I don't disrespect anyone who doesn't, but for those who do - it's hot! If a girl tells me she *wants* to swallow, well I'll give her the keys to the farm.

And what ludwig_van said on preview
posted by forallmankind at 2:02 PM on August 24, 2005


Not a big fan of BJs but this one woman I met had it down pat.
She would work it like my semen was the the Holy Grail in her eagerness to obtain it, and swallow and suck until she was sure she had it all. At the same time she would pretend to have an orgasm. Another factor was that she was willing to do this anytime and would kneel and seek the grail if you were just relaxing. The elements of surprise and her mad desire made my trip to Denver other worldly.
posted by JohnR at 2:05 PM on August 24, 2005


Dear Lord, sequential - that's a lot of awesome advice.

My husband has told me my technique has greatly improved since reading The Guide to Getting it On. There's lots of good advice for both men and women in that book. Blowjobs, handjobs, you name it.
posted by dual_action at 2:06 PM on August 24, 2005


Wow. I'm not Anon, but I have been reading this thread (and taking notes!) with interest. To add in a follow-up question of my own (if I may): during ejaculation, do you fellas like it if your partner continues stimulating you, or is that actually too intense (i.e., you prefer to have your penis just "held" in the mouth, as it were, while you come)? Just curious.
posted by scody at 2:16 PM on August 24, 2005


I find it too intense, scody, but that's yet another one of those "depends on the person" type things.
posted by me3dia at 2:27 PM on August 24, 2005


slow, slower, slow motion, slow. mind blowing...
posted by nightocean at 2:38 PM on August 24, 2005


Then again not slowing down can do the same thing in that right moment.

Right, hence my advice to read his responses and pace it correctly.
posted by ludwig_van at 2:39 PM on August 24, 2005


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Dr. Goodhead says,

You really have to pay attention to how he reacts to the things you do.
There's so many different ways to use you tongue, lips, teeth, and face.
Getting a guy to cum in your mouth using only your mouth takes time and work.
It's easiest if you fuck him first. Then, when he's really ready, go down on
him. The things that work for me is to start off licking a guy. Run your
tongue up and down his shaft. Tickle his balls. And lick the skin under his
balls, guys love that.

Remember to be vocal as much as possible. Men want you to worship their cock.
(They think theirs is special, so make him feel that you think so. My SOs is
special, and I make certain he knows it.) Tell him how good he tastes (mine's
tastes great, and if he doesn't, get him in the shower) and how much you love
the feel of his big dick on your tongue.

Take the head of it in your mouth and suck on it. Then slide down the shaft,
taking as much of it as you can in your mouth. Deep-throating is a special
technique. Do get his cock down your throat, you swallow. Be careful of your
gag reflex. If doing that brings tears to your eyes or makes you wretch, don't
do it, it'll ruin it for him. Breath through your nose. You might try using
an anesthetic spray in your throat to numb the gag reflex. My SO loves it when
I touch my nose to his belly with his cock all the way down my throat.

Use your hand, too. Jack him while you lick or suck on just the head. There's
nothing wrong with improvising a little. Take his cock and rub it on your
nipples, or your face. Don't just do it, love it. When you rub the head of
his dick in your eyes, then gobble it voraciously, it'll get him going good.
Try humming while holding the head in and licking it.

You can get him off in one of several ways. Suck him long and hard. Jack him
off. Rub his cock on your breastbone (titfuck him). Or fuck him till he's
ready to cum, then get down and let him shoot his load in your mouth.

Where you want him to cum, and what you do with it after is also very
important. Do you want him to shoot it in your mouth, on your tits, in your
face? Are you going to swallow? If you like the taste enough to swallow, then
let him see you do it. After he cums in your mouth, show him the jism on your
tongue and toss it to the back of your throat and gulp it down, then lick your
lips. If he cums on your face or tits, scoop it into your mouth, lick it from
your fingers and savor it.

If you don't want to swallow, don't jump and go spit it in the sink. Be a
slut. Let his cum run out of your mouth, down your chin, and drip onto your
tits. Smear it over your body. Show him you want to bathe in it. Two things
you should know, it's very sticky, and it dries and cools fast. If you like
the taste, eat it quick. Cold cum isn't as good. And you'll have to wash off
before it dries too much or it can get uncomfortable. I love having my SOs cum
all over me, and it tastes so good I just have to scoop it all up and swallow
it.

Lastly, whether you keep sucking after he's cumming or stop depends on him.
Dusty goes nuts when I keep sucking. His orgasm lasts almost a minute. But
I've read that some guys say it's painful. You'll just have to try it and find
out.

I hope this helps you. By the way, before the police come banging on my door
for sending you this, how old are you? Have a good blow. Suck hard.

}=>O:

Dusty&Robin
Robin

Also, about semen and "facials"--this is a big turn-on for many men.

There's a widespread belief that what it's really all about is humiliation or subjugation of some sort and, no doubt, for many people it probably is. But it's not necessarily so and, speaking for myself, the turn-on of it is actually quite the opposite.

To most men, I think, semen is by far the most vivid and tangible and singular expression of their sexuality. This is deep in the psyche, going back to early adolescence and wet-dreams and masturbation and that sex means this stuff. And, for men, there's probably some amount of shame relating to it from those adolescent days--cleaning it up, hiding it from mom, whatever. So, I think, for a partner to enjoy the ejaculate in a very visible manner--by swallowing it, by enjoying on their face and body, etc.--it's a huge turn-on because it's a very sex-positive, a very accepting and validating thing to do.

This brings to my mind the "Bob" monologue in The Vagina Monologues. "Bob" was the partner who loved vaginas, spent literally hours just looking and touching and loving his partner's vulva. For the woman who gives that monologue, this is a tremendously liberating experience in the context of a culture that alienates a woman from her vagina and makes her ashamed of it.

Obviously, men are not equally oppressed with regard to their sexuality. Nevertheless, there is something similar going on. When a partner really enjoys semen, she/he is giving a deeply approving message to a man--a message involving the deepest levels of male sexuality.
posted by Ethereal Bligh at 3:27 AM on August 27, 2005


I do remember my boyfriend the first time I sucked him... He could'nt believe I swallowed ! It was something "the-first-time-ever-in-my-life"... There are loads of stuff intersting to test here... I'll come back and tell you later about the results if I can...
Just dunno what to add...
posted by vincentm at 6:09 AM on August 30, 2005


EMTHUSIASM!
posted by ahimsakid at 9:55 AM on August 30, 2005


I find girls used to circumcised guys go a bit heavy on us poor bunch who are little bit more sensitive.

Very true. I'm uncut. Many USians exert far too much direct, early, and severe glans stimulation on a very sensitive part of the body that is not desensitized by decades of chaffing against fabric.
posted by meehawl at 2:42 PM on September 2, 2005


You have my sympathy, meehawl, but on behalf of millions of my fellow routinely mutilated and thus desensitized "USians," I gotta say, there's a whole lot of people who'd very much like to have your "problem."
posted by clicktosubmit at 11:28 AM on September 8, 2005

What is all this all about, all im looking for is info of how to blow my man? any more info on here?

I fear that I might not give the best blow job and I really want to do it right. I want to send my man over the edge with just the thought of me sucking his ****.

I don't have a **** so I don't know what's the right way. I don't know what feels best?

One guy told me just suck,,,no head bobbing. Suck as hard as I can...another said ...don't suck so hard just wrap you mouth around it and bob your head up and down.

So can someone tell me HOW TO GIVE A GOOD BLOW JOB?? Or a least what you like.

Whats up guys? My gf and i have been dating for six months, and still no bj? Any ideas to make her a bit more relaxed as she is very afraid, kewl pics, she should check this web addy out.

Hey and good evening to all. The name is XXXXXX, using the nick bella bella, i was interested in learning how the correct method a bj suppose to be done. I am so scared, as my bf keeps on asking me blow him, and i have no clue....I only lewk at pics, any advice?

When it comes to giving a blowjob, most of us are satisfied with just learning the basics. There is however, a lot more to giving a blowjob that just sucking and this article gives you the heads up (pardon the pun) on more advanced blowjob techniques.

Have you ever wondered about deep throating? Would you like to know how to master this without gagging? If so then keep reading these blowjob techniques.

When your partners penis goes too far towards the back of your mouth it makes you gag. Deep throating is allowing your partner’s penis deep into your mouth without gagging. In order to do this you need to first understand what exactly is happening.

In reality when something reaches the back of your mouth be it a penis, a finger, or even a piece of food, the body reacts by swallowing. Your partner’s penis does not cooperate with this and this is why we gag. In order to avoid gagging and master the technique of deep throating, the best thing that you can do is swallow.

Adding Variety to Your Blowjob Techniques

Probably the worst thing you can do when giving a blowjob is just repeating the same thing over and over again. Yes your partner will come but the power and pleasure the orgasm produces will not be the same.

Switching blowjob techniques every so often during fellatio can help to intensify the pleasure your partner is feeling. Try to make the change natural and smooth, don’t just stop what you are doing, and start doing something completely different.

Some blowjob techniques that you can try are:

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Sucking harder than you normally would. This is an excellent variation during a blowjob and can feel extremely good.
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Licking. This is another good blowjob technique that you can try. This is something that you can do before you have even touched your partner’s penis and is a great way to get the excitement flowing.
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You can lick him the whole way down the shaft of the penis right the way to his testicles and back. The head of the penis is also very sensitive so some gentle licking here can go a long way. Licking the underside of the penis is also a great excitement producer and is something not to be missed.
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Playing with his testicles and even sucking on them is another technique that can produce great results. You can take a whole ball into your mouth or just play with them with your tongue. Personal taste will direct you on this one.


Use Your Hands

Some of the best blowjob techniques involve using your hands and one of the really effective hand techniques is to use both hands during fellatio. You can use saliva or lubricant to help prevent irritation and to help your hands move easily along the penis.

Start at the base of the penis and slide one hand up to the tip of the penis keeping the other hand firmly on the base. Before your first hand slides off the tip you should begin moving the other hand up to the tip whilst placing the first hand back at the base. This is a great way to get things started and you should continue to get faster each time you do this.

Your hands can also be used to play with his testicles while your mouth devours his penis and they can also be used as a backup when giving your mouth a break. If your mouth tends to tire, the best technique is to switch back and forth between your mouth and hands as part of your normal routine, this way it won’t be obvious that your mouth is getting tired.

There are a lot more techniques that you can try and to discover these you will need to practice, explore, and communicate with each other. Remember blowjobs are for pleasure and in order to achieve the ultimate pleasure you have to be able to communicate openly.

I hope this little article has helped you. To learn many more tips and techniques that will help you become the best lover your man has ever had, sign up to receive the internet's most popular blowjob advice column...

1. If it's something you enjoy you can become very very good. (that's not worded well but I'm trying to dispell the myth that guys give the best blow jobs, people who enjoy giving blow jobs give the best blow jobs!)

2. I agree with Carolina EXCEPT: at the "finish" (unless your guy has a hair trigger) what you want to do is find that one really good angle and work it! Most(?) guys will have a great time but will never 'cum' with Carolina's technique. If your guy CAN cum with Carolina's technique then truer words have never been spoken, he will probably propose marriage on the spot!

3. Addendum to point two: If you have a guy who needs the "repetitive" treatment in order to blow, going right for it is akin to a guy going straight for your clit when he performs oral. He won't be as sensitive but it gives the impression that you just want to get it over with. Some guys don't know any better themselves, they will learn how fun it can be when you mix things up for him.

4. A truly great blowjob is about getting a guy close to cumming and keeping him there for as long as possible before the final release. (You can ignore all the other points and have this one cast in stone if you like)

5. If your man cums quickly/easily then you are lucky (as far as blowjobs go!). If you have a guy that is more difficult then you need to save something (of yourself) for the end. (I explained this one completely in either the "small guy with huge bf" or "need help bottoming" thread just the other day. It's definitely worth looking up.

The CuriousCarolina

(I hate my screen name - it was supposed to be "curious" as to what was going on in here, and all the good carolina names were taken. I think it has a bi-curious ring to it, and that's not where I'm at.)

You have just noticed that your lover is a fellatio maniac and you would want to give him what throws him off balance. Men love their private parts being stimulated by use of the mouth, lips and tongue. Wow, the feeling is so good he will be begging for more. It does not just happen but you have to employ the right combination of fancy fellatio techniques. Clear your mind off the attitude that this is a dirty game. This will reduce the enthusiasm since no one wants to eat anything dirty.


Once you set the right attitude and mood give your man a blow job like their is no tomorrow. Fellatio techniques are simple and most certainly no news to you only that you have never taken your time to identify just how much they can be used to drive your man wild.

I know many people refer to fellatio as blow job but their is no any blowing involved. May be the blowing of the mind. To know what it is, hold his penis by its base and lick it like that ice cream cone. To make it more exotic, why not buy the ice cream and spread it on the shaft? Lick it from the base upwards as you switch the sides. You can produce the mourning sounds just to show that you are enjoying the fellatio. This is a fellatio technique that will send him to the edge. As one of the fellatio techniques, flick your miracle working tongue back and forth across the delicate and sensitive corona. Should should be light and rapid. This technique is known as butterfly flick. The tongue flicked along the the ridge does it all.

Among breath taking fellatio techniques is the nominal congress. Hold the penis with your hand, wrap the lips around your teeth and move the shaft around in your mouth. It should be flexible enough to move.


You can as well hold the tip and the base and gently bite the sides. It will give a ticklish pleasurable feeling but be very careful not to hurt your man. You will not be forgiven. Try the sulking swirl as one of the fellatio techniques. Move your tongue in circles on the penis and establish a swirl. He will probably be screaming "please do not stop". Just when he thought this was the best, switch to the lucky number eight fellatio technique.


This calls for the tongue to teasingly draw figure eight. Your tongue has the capacity to be hard and flat or soft and curly. Vary the speed and the tongue pressure for best results.

Sucking the manhood is one of the things which makes men to erect at the sight of a suckling baby. They imagine the same being done to them. Automatic Hoover is one of the fellatio techniques which advocates for the suction feeling. It uses the same technique as the vacuum cleaner. You can establish vacuum space in your mouth by tightly holding your lips around the shaft.



Start pumping by the help of your cheeks. Slowly then faster. Ooh! the feeling might make him go unconscious with pleasure. Switch to sucking fruit technique. Take half of his penis and suck it like you are sucking a mango. Do it vigorously and ensure you are using enough lubricant to avoid irritation. This will be perfect timing for deep throating fellatio techniques.


You should try to swallow it controllably since this might make you gag. This technique off course will give him an orgasm if not multiple orgasms. You have just given your man a mild blowing fellatio. It now qualifies to be called a blow job!
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How do I improve my blowjob technique? I do pretty well as it is but operate under the beliefs that a) it's something you can never be too good at and b) different people like different things, so I'd love to know new things to try. What do you like to do/like to have done to you?

Stuff you probably need to know: I'm a girl, single, I get a lot of action. I post this question not because I don't have guy friends I can talk to about sex, because we do talk about it a lot, it's just that I don't want to know exactly what makes *them* tick. TMI between friends, you know. And I know you're already thinking it so: please be more helpful than "don't be afraid to use your hands"! I'm not, and I do.

How do I improve my blowjob technique? I do pretty well as it is but operate under the beliefs that a) it's something you can never be too good at and b) different people like different things, so I'd love to know new things to try. What do you like to do/like to have done to you?

Stuff you probably need to know: I'm a girl, single, I get a lot of action. I post this question not because I don't have guy friends I can talk to about sex, because we do talk about it a lot, it's just that I don't want to know exactly what makes *them* tick. TMI between friends, you know. And I know you're already thinking it so: please be more helpful than "don't be afraid to use your hands"! I'm not, and I do.

Dating Tips & Sex Advice

Welllllll, I have so much fun giving blow jobs. I start by licking your lips & kissing you softly. Then I kiss your neck & ear, trailing a line with my tongue down to your nipples. You love it when I kiss, lick & suck on your nipples, don't you? So I do just that, starting on the left then moving to the right. I nip it with my teeth & suck on it like i'm giving you a hickey & then lick it feather light.

All this gets you really hard & the precum starts to ooze. I LOVE the taste of precum. If you tell me there is precum for me I will drop your pants then & there to lick it up. So I lick the precum off the tip of your dick & savor it. Then I start teasing you by licking your shaft up & down & all over, but avoid the head. I lick under the ridge of the head, but do not take the head in my mouth.


Then I lick all the way down to the base of your shaft & take your balls in my mouth, one at a time & suck on them softly. I take both in my mouth & teabag you. I'm willing to bet I get more precum as a reward. Right? So, of course, I have to lick up the precum.

Next I engulf you in your entirety into my mouth, deep-throating you all at once. I stay just like that, your whole shaft inside my mouth, tip at the back of my throat for a minute or so, just letting you feel the wetness & warmth of my mouth. You moan, I'm sure, as it is sheer ecstasy to be buried to the hilt in my mouth. I slowly start to lick the head while it is still in my mouth, ringing around the ridge, flickering at the pee hole. Then I start to move towards the top & suck gently until I let almost all of you out of my mouth. You like to watch, don't you? So I put on a little show for you. I slowly move your thick cock in & out of my mouth in long strokes, sucking softly & in the spots you like it best. I do this until I feel you growing bigger in my mouth. Then the teasing starts again.


I don't let you cum at first. I build up the climax for you, making you beg for release.

I start to lick the head again, probing your pee hole with my tongue in a sensual way that really turns you on, licking your shaft, cupping your balls in my free hand. I take all of you in my mouth again & concentrate on the top of your dick. I move slowly at first then quicken the speed, using my hand at the base of your shaft. It is wet with all the saliva that has dripped down your cock & from my constant licking & sucking, making you good & wet. I start to move my hand up & down in pace with my mouth, giving you a hand job & blow job at the same time, exciting you even more.

You start to ooze cum & I ask if you want me to milk you dry or to let you blow your wad. You see, I am holding the base of your dick & have the control over this. If I continue to hold it firmly you will just ooze cum, but if I let it lose you can have a mind shattering orgasm. Some days I prolong the orgasm by milking you dry, slowly letting little bits of cum squirt over a few minutes, having your orgasm last up to five minutes & other days I make you cum so hard you sees stars.

This day I want to drink your cum so I let lose & you shoot your wad all at once. It is a jism shake for me!!! I love to tease you after you cum, too, licking & sucking on your sensitive head, making you jump in the bed & practically hit the ceiling until you beg me to stop. I give you a little break & then we start all over again.

So, that's my blow job technique, plus or minus some secrets I refuse to tell...you like?

How To Give A Blow Job With Pictures

There are different reasons why some women can't and won't give blow jobs to their men. Some of them are embarrassed and afraid, some are feeling humiliated and disgusted, and some just can't, period. While other women enjoy giving their men blow jobs- armed with their knowledge and experience- you are probably thinking how they can do it.

Women like you need not be left out because you too should enjoy the pleasurable methods of heightening the sexual desires of your partner. You can research for various methods and techniques how to give blow a job with pictures so you'll see how it's done in plain print. Giving a blow job may look disgusting to you right now, but as you learn the right moves and apply them, your guy will enjoy every intimate minute that he's with you.

By looking for how to give a blow job with pictures, you will see the exact step of how to do a particular technique or how to position yourself properly. Pictures say a thousand words as the adage goes, so you will definitely learn more if you'll be able to find publications or online resources with blow job pictures and techniques.

There are books written by expert authors of this subject that can help you with how to give a blow job with pictures or at least some form of graphic representation. Although not all books have illustrations/photos, but still you will learn the basic methods of how to give blow jobs.

Offline publications like magazines may not always have "how to give a blow job" pictures since most of the printed publications are regulated and even censored. Try to be more resourceful online and offline, and surely you'll find a reading material that will help you in learning blow job techniques.

If you don't have the time to scour for magazines, the internet is the most convenient place to look for how to give a blow job with pictures. Look for blogs, e-books, online articles as well as health-related reads which have illustrations. These are ideal alternatives to streaming blow job instructional videos since you can just flip the pages back and forth with a mouse.

What makes these resources great is that you can download them and save them for later. It is also easy to share these rich information with a friend or family member who has the same dilemma as you- cannot share their problems regarding blow job or oral sex with anyone. You can just send them the pages via email and hope that they learn from it. Of course they will because these are different from porn magazines that only depict the act itself- minus the instructions and proper info.

If you can't find how to give a blow job with pictures, check out Blow by Blow. By learning the guidelines and techniques laid out by this e-book, you don't have to be embarrassed anymore and you will learn how to give a good blow job for a more pleasurable and intimate experience every time.

Posted 08-17-05 03:47 AM Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
My boyfriend enjoys me giving him blow jobs Winkand everything, now my question is, how come one day I can get a whole mouth full of semen, and other times I get very little. Confused I mean I give him at least once or twice a week sometimes even three times, and some times I get very little. Confused Also how come sometimes when I swallow his semen, i get watery poop Roll Eyes. like when you get sick to your stomach Razz, yet it doesn't hurt?
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with the issue of sometimes alot sometimes a litte it takes at least 24 hours with out ejac*lating to build up sperm.. so he has either A) mater*bated or he might have had sex already that day or it could be that you are just draining him dry....lol
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it takes 72 hours to produce sperm...and as for the amount of semen...there are lots of variables such as the length of arousal, the intensity of arousal, the time between orgasms, and ect...so, I wouldnt worry. Cool

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* Mouth Only -This is a good place to start if he isn't fully erect. Put his entire penis in your mouth while you suck and lick. Don't start moving your mouth up and down until he's at least partially erect. Another mouth technique is to repeatedly suck in his not-yet-but-soon-to-be erect penis and then follow with a swallowing motion, allowing for his entire penis to be in your mouth. Just because it isn't fully erect yet doesn't mean it doesn't feel good, you know?



* Mouth and Tongue - Lick the whole tip, and use your tongue to lick up and down the sides. This will help get his erection slick enough to slide into your mouth easily. Make sure you cover your teeth with your lips, and glide the head of his penis into your mouth. At this point you can use your tongue to lick the sensitive spot underneath the ridge of the head. One book suggested that the lick you use here should be like the kind of lick you would take of your favorite ice cream. From here you can proceed down the shaft as far as you can go. Don't worry if it isn't all the way - your mouth isn't necessarily as deep as his cock is long.



Relax your jaw and neck as much as possible, and remember to breathe, through your nose if you can. This will help to minimize the possibility of gagging. When you pull your mouth back, pull it up the entire length right over the ridge of the tip, or even take it out of your mouth for a second- this is another opportunity to breathe. Then go on back for more. Try to avoid jerky, abrupt movements - and a glass of water nearby is handy. Keeping your tongue in motion is a good idea as well. You have it conveniently located, you might as well play with it. As for suction, you aren't going to be able to really suck his entire length- you just aren't built that way. You can suck on the head though, and a particularly interesting question can be asking him to suck on your finger as strongly as he would like you to suck on his head. Adjust your sucking accordingly.



* Mouth and Hands - Hands can be remarkably useful - they add variety, they can play with other parts, and they can make up for whatever you can't take into your mouth. One hand at the base of the penis, with the thumb and forefinger circling the shaft can not only help keep him erect and in position, but can keep the foreskin out of your way if he happens to be uncircumcised. With the other hand make the same ring with the thumb and forefinger, but use this one against your lips to follow the movement of your mouth up and down. (I've seen this called the Seal and the Ring) You can also coordinate a mouth stroke with a hand stroke as if giving him a hand job. But the hands (or mouth) need not stay there! As long as one is paying attention to his penis, feel free to use the other to explore his thighs, stomach, balls, ass, perineum (that spot between the scrotum and the anus) and whatever else you can reach.



Watch out though, when playing with his balls, be gentle. You can be more firm if and when he requests it. You can even take one (or if your mouth is big enough, both) of his testicles in your mouth instead of simply licking or stroking them (referred to as Tea Bagging I'll never look at my Earl Grey the same way.) . Your hand can be particularly useful if you find yourself about to gag - let your hand do the work and give yourself time to recover before going back down.

Putting it all together:
Those basic techniques are excellent to build on, and are really all you need to give a good blow job, provided you've both entered into it with the right attitude and you're paying attention to what he does and doesn't like. (Stop being shy and talk to each other! You're putting your mouth on his penis, and he's putting his penis near your teeth. You obviously trust each other somewhat.) Don't be afraid to pause the action to give him a chance to cool off. Delaying orgasm is not a bad thing. When you approach his climax, his testicles will tighten up against his body. Don't be afraid to go a little faster or harder here, just don't get sloppy. Then comes the moment of your big decision:

spit or swallow?
I don't care what you've been told, gentlemen, not everyone can swallow. Some people, yes, can and choose not to, but that can be based on a variety of things and you should be happy you are being favored with a blow job to begin with. It has nothing to do with you if your semen isn't swallowed. It's just a choice. As for people who do (or want to) a couple things to remember are

* You are swallowing bodily fluid. Please, please, please be careful. Make sure your partner is clean and healthy, and by this I mean tested for HIV. Not something you want to worry about at that moment.
* What he puts into his body - food, cigarettes, coffee, alcohol, whathaveyou may affect the taste. If you're concerned about the taste, swallow it in one gulp, that way it'll pass your taste buds quickly. And please, for his sake, don't look disgusted by it.
* And if you're curious, from what I've read the average ejaculate has about 6 calories.

If you choose not to:

* If you want to finish with your hand, go ahead. I'm not doing instructions on hand jobs here. Someone else will have to node that. I've read that some guys really like to watch themselves come and this may be a better choice for you if that's his preference. He can see it all and not do any work.
* If you want to finish in your mouth, don't make a huge show of spitting it out. Make smooth exit to the bathroom or have a tissue handy that you can unobtrusively spit into.

Advanced techniques: I'll write some of these up elsewhere in the name of saving space.

* the upright citizen
* Hummers
* tinglers
* hot and cold blow jobs
* 69

Finishing the Job:
When is a good job finished? I don't know. That depends on you. It could be when he's done, it could be when he's reciprocated, it could be when you both collapse into unconsciousness four days from now. It could be simply a kiss after his orgasm, or cleaning him up, or what have you. Here's Adoxograph's Philosophy on Sex: If some nice person is going to be nice enough that they will take off their clothes with you and let you play naked with them, you might as well make sure you both have fun. Of course, with imagination you can expand on this immeasurably. I hope you do. Please feel free to add any other techniques that have been missed. I hope someone finds this helpful...

As a South African female, i would like to thank footprints filmworks in this opening letter. I know that i love giving head to my husband because of the reasons that follow.

I suppose that I have been lucky. I have been the closest one can be to being lesbian and yet I have always admired men.

I know that this is unusual because most women talk of love, trust and comittment. I would love to jump on my man and fuck his brains out.

But it doesn’t work like that, does it? Even if a woman climbs on top (done it many times) she’s still stimulating his penis with her vagina.

I had a horror of tits. I was late developping so, in a way, I was relieved to have anything but I wanted to be a woman not a lactating cow.

Equally I didn’t want to be the boyish no-tits lesbian. Other women seem to be more at ease with the female package, whether it’s big tits, huge thighs, the big mama complex. I wanted to be the woman that lusted for her man and could enjoy mutual sexual satisfaction.

Well it’s not that easy. At least I never found it easy. I guess I was hoping for the wrong things. Women hope for babies and I got those. Men hope for good sex and, for me, I felt that sex was always over-sold.

Leastways where women are concerned. Christ – I haven’t met a woman that has even hinted at lust. There’s superficial bravado but no heart-to-hearts. No woman has ever talked about sexual frustration.

I reckon there’s lots of it about if you’re a woman. Someone please tell me I’m wrong and that if I were a true woman I would be happy with emotional and loving feelings from my relationships. I guess I landed on the wrong planet and out there somewhere things are more equal. Men share the babies and women share the joy of sexual lust.

Until then, dream on babes…

The fact is that orgasm is much, much more difficult to achieve with a partner than is commonly suggested. The core of the problem is that women use sexual fantasies during masturbation but these can be difficult to use during sex with a partner especially if they are surreal/kinky in nature (which they usually are).

I am not trying to belittle men by suggesting that women deliberately deceive them (although this is sometimes true). Equally, I’m not trying to belittle women who are convinced that orgasm happens the first time and every time during sex.

I’m just pointing out to those who know what orgasm is from masturbation that other women are, often quite innocently, mistaken. Since they never masturbate they never learn how their sexual arousal works or how to reach orgasm by any means.

Think yourself lucky…

Practical Sex Solutions – a real-life "Better Sex" memo
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Have you ever thought to yourself, "My sex life would be so much better if my partner was a just little more/less _________"? Yes, you have. It's happened. Human beings are all unique, with all sorts of physical and psychological variations that aren't always ideal for the ultimate sex life. Don't despair, however! Technology has brought us leaps and bounds forward in the search for sexual pleasure. Sex toys are no longer limited to cheap, plastic, phallic-shaped things. There is a wide variety of fun, useful products designed to improve our personal, loving sex lives and strengthen our relationships. So if the man of your dreams just happens to be a little under par in the size department, or you find yourself wanting more than he can give, it doesn't mean you can't have ultimately satisfying sex. Read on…

Problem 1: "He's too small"
There are a few solutions to this problem, if indeed this is a problem at all. Many men who are below average size-wise have learned to use other parts of their body to their partner's grateful benefit. But if his little guy just isn't satisfying you, there are quite a few things to try. First, try different positions: let him take you from behind while you squeeze your legs together, or lie on your back with your knees at your chest and your feet over his shoulders. These positions allow deeper penetration, tighten your vaginal canal and increase sensation for both of you. You can also have him try a penis enhancer. These come in all sizes and shapes to lengthen, thicken, support, and satisfy whatever need you both may have. Third, work your PC muscles.


A good set of Smartballs, an updated version of Ben-Wa balls, will strengthen and tighten your internal muscles. With your vaginal muscles primed and toned, you'll be amazed at how much more you'll feel during sex.

Problem 2: "He's too big"
Sorry to disillusion you, guys, but bigger isn't always better. A huge member doesn't always guarantee pleasure; it can often cause pain for women with tight or short vaginal canals. The best solution to this problem is lots of foreplay! Spend lots of time getting her excited using your hands or mouth. When she's ready, slather on a healthy dollop of lubricant and ease in slowly. Silicone-based lubes tend to work best for easing the friction of a tight fit. If he's really long, try a set of penis donuts. These fit tightly at the base of the penis so he'll still receive stimulation, but they're wide enough keep him from going further in than she's comfortable with. Some positions to try: her on top, so she's in complete control of penetration and speed. Side-by-side also limits how deeply he can penetrate.

Problem 3: "He wants it all the time"
If your partner is always after you for sex, and you're never "in the mood," you may be setting yourself up for some serious long-term relationship problems. Try not to think of this as his problem; there are a number of solutions you can enact that can directly affect you. Some things to try:
*Make sure you're keeping a healthy sleep schedule – Not enough sleep leads to a reduction in testosterone, the hormone that gives you a healthy libido.
*Take active responsibility for your sex drive – Figure out what turns you on, don't leave it to your partner to guess. When you pinpoint what gets you in the mood, do it often, share it with your partner, whatever it takes to enjoy yourself.
*Identify and work out issues with your body image – The better you feel about your body, the more likely you are to enjoy sex. This may require getting a gym membership or scheduling counseling.
*Initiate sex, even if you're not in the mood – By taking the reigns, you take control of the situation, which can be a major turn-on for you. You don't even have to go all the way. Oral sex or even manual stimulation will make your partner equally grateful, and can rev up your own lagging libido.
*Fantasize – Let your body and mind get in the mood without the pressure of having to perform or please someone else. Find a fun vibrator or other toy help you enjoy your alone time. The more you exercise your libido, the healthier it'll become.

Problem 4: "He doesn't want it as much as I do"
Biology has set us up for a cruel trick: as we age, a woman's sex drive goes up while a man's libido starts to fall behind. While many women fear this is because they have become less appealing to their partners, in most cases, this couldn't be further from the truth. Here are some things you can do to help yourself out:
*Masturbate – When you need to take the edge off, close the door, turn on some music, and spend some quality time with your favorite rabbit vibrator.
*Make sure it's sex you're after – Identify whether you're actually craving sex, or if you're looking for love, intimacy, affection, or a stress-reducer. There are other ways of receiving these without depending on sex.
*Know your partner's appetites – Learn what turns him on and off. Explore all the options of the things they enjoy, broaden your repertoire of sexual knowledge, and be sure to mix it up. A simple sex swing can make your sex lives seem brand new again.

*Utilize the quickie – Sex doesn't always have to be an hour-long excursion. Use lots of lubricant and make the most of whatever time you have.

Take an active role in improving your sexual happiness, and you'll find that you both benefit. Life changes over time, and your wants and needs will forwever be fluctuating, so be sure to communicate, work through whatever issues you may have together, and don't be afraid to try new things. Satisfaction comes to those who work at it!

The word "Tantra" has been bandied about since it first came into popular lexicon in the 1970's. It was during the days of the flower culture and free love that the western world re-discovered the philosophy of the "Tantra."


They interpreted in many different ways but love and sex were common elements in almost every interpretation. There were many who claimed to have renounced their worldly ambitions to live a life that is governed by the principles of Tantra.

The word "Tantra" has its origins in Sanskrit. It seems as if it is the amalgamation of two words - Tanoti and Trayati. Tanoti means to expand consciousness, and Trayati means to liberate consciousness. Tantra also means fabric in Hindi, the national language of India. Combining the Sanskirt and Hindi versions would make Tantra, the fabric of existence. The belief that Tantra originated in India is flawed because versions of it were practiced in the Far East, Turkey, Armenia, Polynesia, and even the Cherokee tribes of North America. One common thread that runs through these cultures is that they have deep respect for nature and are comparatively laid-back and relaxed.

The synthesis between true love and deep meditation is Tantra. Tantra means to get in touch with our cosmic consciousness. Tantra holds sex as a sacred act that does not get adulterated if it happens outside the confines of marriage. Most religions bring a certain fear element when it comes to God but Tantra propagates the theory that God is to be loved and not feared. It attempts to reconcile the two ideas of sex giving man animal pleasure, at the same time it being deep spiritual pursuit. Tantra is all about the channeling of sexual energy to achieve a Union with ones true self and God. Those practicing Tantra are taught to make love with every possible animate and inanimate object. The idea is to debunk the conventional vehicle of thought - the mind and embrace the concept of thinking with your heart, body and soul.

Tantra is the total surrender of all mental, emotional, social and cultural conditioning. It means the elimination of dogma from our lives. It means the breaking of many rules that have been imposed upon us over the years. It means the removal of effort that one puts to live in a way that is accepted by conventional society. There is no fear in Tantra. According to Tantra we can celebrate life when the idea of separation, or otherness, is destroyed. This enables people to meet at all levels of consciousness--physical, vital, mental, intellectual and spiritual. Tantra preaches the concept of spiritualizing ones sexuality. It offers practical tools and techniques to achieve this. One of the techniques that it teaches man is to enable him to delay his orgasm so as to accept the maximum amount of female energy possible.

Initially Tantra was all about the feminine energy and it was captured in the image of the goddess, Shakti. The feminine energy was considered to be something that was superior to the masculine energy. It attempted to encapsulate the interplay between the male God, Shiva and Shakti. Shakti is seen as the female component of Shiva and is often viewed as being in perpetual coupling with him. But all the artwork depicting Shiva and Shakti depict Shakti increasing Shiva's powers and vitality. Tantra attempts to duplicate this perpetual coupling amongst all its practitioners.

Tantra however has become tainted over the years as something that is nothing but an excuse to have an orgy. This has come about because of the myopic view of sex that Western religions take up. Sex that is not within the confines of marriage is considered to be blasphemy. Undoubtedly, Tantra has its share of fanatics but that does not mean that everybody has to be colored in a similar negative hue. The media too finds it easier to sell the concept of Tantra using the sex platform and almost completely ignores the philosophical aspect. If sex were the only objective then the practitioners of Tantra would not follow such a complicated, elaborate, and exceedingly difficult procedure to gratify themselves.

Dating back to as long as 3200 BC, most of the Mesopotamian paintings depict a woman taking on the mantle to sexual freedom. This does not mean that feminists are always right, its just that this is the most sexually satisfying of all positions so far. Of course you need not be an athlete to be as flexible and be able to stretch for this position, but if you are capable of twisting your body rather well, then this could be an added advantage! This position not only brings about a certain emancipation in bed, it also provides a major boost to the woman’s ego, that she reigns supreme! Women being the feelers in the game of sex are usually the ones who feel left out in terms of sexual understanding.

The importance of this position
Many of them simply complain that there just isn’t much time enough to get the couple in the mood for sex. And when you speak of good sex, its always a great idea to ask a woman how the round went. Nine times out of ten she’s the one who would be the best judge of the activity that just took place. Another reason why such a position is always successful is because while she rules the act, she also knows the ‘G Spot’, when it gets stimulated and what a wonderful feeling it is to rule the roost and experience a wonderful orgasm.

Most women tend to fake their orgasm, simply because they don’t want their partners to feel that they have displeased them. It is perhaps this prolonged feeling that ultimately makes them lose interest in sex. After all how long can you possibly go on pleasing your partner and making adjustments when you really don’t feel all that good.

Most women think from their heart so a sexual act that is so intimate also needs the nod from the same. Most men are like light bulbs who just cannot get enough and get started almost immediately as they are more visually inclined towards everything. Women when stimulated right and allowed to take a ride can feel the most intimate vaginal layers that are most sensitized especially during foreplay.

What’s even better for men is that this position is less intense for the male and helps in delaying their ejaculation. Moreover, if you are lying down your hands are free to promote even more stimulation! On the emotional side, women are always considered inferior and this position gives them a high, both physically and mentally. They feel in control and needed, and feel more sexually stimulated, rather than just lying there and getting themselves laid!

Methods
There are two ways in which you could possibly practice this position. One method would be the traditional woman being on top with her face pouring over yours, in the traditional manner, where you could possibly fondle her more. An alternative to this position is when her back faces you. Stroking her back is known to be the second most seductive act of foreplay for the woman as she relaxes and enjoys the act altogether!

Generally men and women often cannot make up their minds on whose superiority will bear fruit an sexual politics of this sort ultimately lose out on the importance and value behind this position altogether. Irrespective of whether your lady is light or not, she will always enjoy this position and will definitely not be the one to complain. Don’t believe me, well you could try it out you

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11. Get into it. Look at your partner and the ecstacy you have caused! Make eye contact. Show your partner how much you love being down there. Moan, make appreciative noises (a well-placed MMMM! can make for some nice vibration, too), let your partner know how turned on you are. Don't neglect the rest of the body, either stroke, tickle, scratch the thighs, stomach, butt, and everywhere else you can reach.
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13. Finish the Job. It is ultimately your choice whether or not to swallow. Your partner's diet, health, habits and frequency of ejaculation will determine the quantity and taste of the ejaculate. The ejaculate of someone who ingests lots of red meat, caffeine, alcohol or cigarettes, may taste more intense than that of a non-smoking vegetarian. The most ejaculate you might encounter is a teaspoonful or so. You have several choices if you aren't crazy about ejaculate, but don't want to hurt anyone's feelings:

* you can take it in your mouth and discreetly deposit into a nearby towel
* as your partner approaches climax, withdraw and finish with your hand.
* you can let your partner come on your body and admire the copious amounts of ejaculate
* you can use a condom

When you're totally focused on giving head, it can be a lot of fun whether it's for power play (your partner's most precious asset is at your mercy), intimacy, or the pure fun of getting someone off. Remember, you should only be performing fellatio on somebody if you're really into it and are able to focus all of your energy on what you're doing. If you're staring at the clock, waiting for it to end, or worrying about the laundry in the dryer, you won't have a good time and your partner will be able to tell you're not into it, which can be distracting, too!